Ross Jeffries

Originally I was looking for ways to solve my own problems, I was not attractive to women, I was afraid of women and had a lot of issues with approach anxiety. When I stumbled upon NLP I read a book by Richard Bandler and John Grinder and I immediately understood that I could use this to solve my own problems. Show less «

I got two girls into bed up until 1987, that means I was...uh...I was born in 1958, you do the math. I was nearly thirty years old. Two girls! Terrible. Really terrible. Show less «

Well today it's a new reality, not just because I have mad skills, but also I'm sort of a celebrity. "The Game" and Facebook really changed it for me. Now I have female fans from all over the world. But I still mostly rely on game. And I have to say, I'm 51 years old and my last girlfriend who I broke up with, this beautiful Swedish girl, was 21 years old. I get along with women under 30 a lot better. They're so much more fun and vivid. Show less «

Well, I don't like bars. They're too noisy, and I don't like loud environments, but what I would do is walk up, I like to do a little preopener, I'd say...anything. First of all I would make a comment on the actual situation that is really funny. It all depends on the situation. A preopener can be anything, If she's alone I could say "I'm wondering what you're doing to keep all the guys away from you, cause it's not working on me." And then when she laughs "You know, I'm glad you laughed, it shows you have a sense of humor." It shows you have a sense of humor before you introduce yourself "my name is...". Now let's go through that opener. I walk up and I say"I'm wondering what you're doing to keep all the guys away from you, cause it's not working on me." Now that's a really funny way to pace her reality, cause the reality is there is no guys in there. I'm saying it in a funny way, so I'm getting rapport by pacing her reality, I'm showing her that I'm funny. And then there's the next part I do. This part is really crucial to make this work. When I say "I'm glad you laughed, it shows you have a sense of humor" , what is that doing? It's showing that I'm screening for something more then her looks, and that humor is important to me. I'm showing that I have standards. All of that is accomplished in the space of a minute. Women likes different vibes, and if you can show in the space of a minute that you have all the vibes, you're halfway home. Show less «

There's two ways I could follow it up: I could follow up with a question that is designed to open up her imagination and emotions, or I could follow up with a fun game. It's a coin toss, 50/50, half the time I do the question, half the time I do the game. So the game will be something like this: "Let's play a little quiz that I've learned. It's called the Snack Quiz. Let's see if we are snack compatible. Cause according to scientists, 98 percent of couples who get along are snack compatible. So let's see. M&M's or potato chips?" No matter what she answers, the first answer is always wrong. Then I say "Ok, but it's two out of three...potato chips or chocolate bars?" We're just testing to see how she responds to that. The reason I go for this is because women likes games. Women are conditioned to respond to games. The format or subject isn't important, if it's a quiz or game. So I could start with a game or a question. Now that question is designed to open up her imagination.So the the question I like to ask is "You know, I'm really curious, cause I've found out I really learn a lot about people by learning what really grabs their attention. So when you want to focus in, to give all you attention to do something you really love to do, what do you want to do? That question is designed to give her pleasure, and then I can play on that. Show less «

My favorite pattern has to do with how I show up. What you do with your body, what you do with your beliefs, what you visualize in your mind, what you're doing with your energy and vibe. So, 50 percent of this has to do with how you show up. Remember, patterns aren't just language. So my favorite pattern is how I show up. Show less «

[The best way to learn is] Immersion. You know when you take a bath and you get your whole body into the water, not just the tip of your toe? That's it. Immerse yourself into it. Take my courses. Don't just listen or read'em once, listen to them nonstop. Show less «

I absolutely teach training routinality, but more important I teach beliefs.Training your energy, training your vibe...

Train yourself to be strong and commanding, fun and spontaneous, train yourself to show a deep understanding to the womens world and then finally train yourself when to show them your world. Cause sometimes women want to feel that they understand you better then any other women in the world. So sometime you have to reveal something from your inner world. Not all the time of course, but once in a while. I think one of the keys to women is emotional variety. Knowing when to be strong and commanding, when to be fun and so on. Show less «

Number one, control your state. Learn to build in a confidence that doesn't rely on being accepted or rejected.Number two, learn to look differently at how women create their world. Womens emotions, like love, desire, connection, attraction, are not things, they're processes that women do inside of their body. If you learn to look at processes and activity instead of things, you will be able to see these things in her and be able to link them to yourself.Number three, of course, learn to use your language to capture and lead a woman's emotions and open up those parts of her mind that are useful for seduction. And to shut down those parts that are not useful. Show less «

I'd say this, no matter how bad things are for you, I've been there and over 22 years, tens of thousands of students of mine have been there too. You are not alone in your struggle, you're not alone with your sticking points, there are answers too if you're interested. It'll be my mission and my honor and privilege to help you with this. Show less «

[As of 1998, about 70 percent of my clients are] edge junkies. They want to beat the system and they don't want to play the dating game. I teach them how to get that edge. Show less «

Women don't really want a guy with a great body, a handsome face or lots of money. What women want is the emotional states they experience when they are around a guy with a great body, a handsome face, etc. Show less «

Don't knock this stuff until you try it. The metaphor I use is fishing. You don't bait the hook with the kind of food you like to eat, you bait it with what the fish are going to bite on. Show less «

When most men meet a beautiful woman, they're so wrapped up in their own feelings that they neglect what the woman is feeling. If you want to be successful with women, focus on their state, not yours. Show less «

If you listen to what a woman says, she'll give you all the information you need to seduce her.

The difference between losers and winners is that losers don't fail enough.